Why do we stage ‘big weddings’ we can hardly afford?
I am yet to hear of a weekend in Nigeria where an event doesn’t happen. Be it a wedding, birthday, burial, house warming or whatever. Even political office holders hold thanksgiving parties. Not to forget the thanksgiving also thrown by people who were kidnapped and later released alive. Or those who survived major surgeries or accidents. Does this mean we are appreciative or just love to show off lavishly? I believe we do it for both reasons though. We genuinely want to appreciate God and also try to ‘impress’ in the process.
Most of the time, the people who add colour to events are also guilty of trying to impress. They must dress to kill. They must buy the aso ebi even if it will drain their purse. I got tired of attending weddings when the price of aso ebi kept going up(lol). The last amount I paid was 15k, that was 3years ago. Now people pay as ‘low’ as 50k or 100k for aso ebi.
I prefer watching event on TV rather than attend one physically, mostly weddings. It’s been a while I attended one. This is because I get lost in the crowd, I get exasperated when people go to fight at serving stands because their table was omitted, then I get emotional at wedding ceremonies; the huge crowd, the decor, the reception and how people focus on you. I could just die or melt away with such crowd. I have a phobia for crowds. I just can’t deal.
This article came about while watching ‘trends’ on AIT this evening. I think I now understand why girls insist on having a GRAND wedding even when their bank account screams ‘are you in your right senses?’. Well, grand is relative. The idea of ‘grand’ in some people’s head isn’t still the kind of grand I am talking about here. The grand weddings that take place at the Ecumenical Centre (I think one of former president jonathan’s numerous adoptive daughters wedded there). The bellanaija kind of weddings where traditional marriage will hold at Eko Hotel and Suites Convention centre while white wedding will be in UK or US. If you keep watching ovation weddings or bellanaija weddings, you may drive yourself so hard to achieve all you see there. Don’t struggle to belong. If you are small, then you are really small(tongue-out)
Pray, where do people get such HUGE(i pronounce huge with my eyeballs protuding out of their socket) amount of money to throw such lavish parties in two different continents?with family members and well wishers flying across continents to attend.#faints#. And what makes it amazing is that these are people who aren’t into any political office in Nigeria. Their names aren’t even popular. #somepeoplearequietlyloaded#
I see weddings happening in Lekki, banana island, Maitama and I wonder, why don’t we pay heavy taxes like in other countries. Maybe this would reduce spending. If you are big, you are big. I like those who spend their money on their wedding and it shows. I mean almost perfect arrangement, nice decor, cool venue etc. Now the bride even changes her dress like three times while the poor groom is still decked in one. Wwoooomen!
The people I have problem with are those who can’t stage a big wedding and end up trying hard to impress. Or how do you explain a wedding where the reception decor is like tieing different colour of balloon on poles and it looks like a circus show. Must you have a white wedding by force? Can’t you wed under the customary law?
If you take a survey of why people attend weddings, it is either to eat free food, to see the bride’s gown or to see the groom. Pray, why do people scramble for food at weddings? Am talking of well dressed goodlooking matured women o. What is it about party jollof rice or ofada that drives people crazy or make them lose their dignity?.
I watched the 80th birthday ceremony of baba ijebu, chief kessington adebukunola adebutu on AIT. Oh! It was so grand. I so much envy the presenter, pretty Daala,because she gets to attend all major functions FOC(lol) and interviews some big personalities. The birthday got me emotional too, with baba walking unaided and with his sights intact. Sunny Ade was on the bandstand, Tuface idibia as well. I love birthday celebrations of the elderly, most especially when they have achieved so much.
The question is this: why do we stage big weddings we can hardly afford? Why must you copy the dreamy, fairy tale kinda weddings on some wedding sites if you can’t afford it?
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Author’s note: I still love weddings