Signs that he will never marry you
Sometimes, after so many years together, you just assume he has to be the one. That’s what many women before you also thought. If the truth must be told, there are lots of women in dysfunctional relationships who think the only problem is he hasn’t proposed. These women can waste years with a guy who isn’t going to marry them. Maybe, you are one of them.
According to a study by a relationship expert, Jennifer Gauvain, “30percent of divorced women knew they were marrying the wrong guy on their wedding day”. For the women in these relationships, there are signs. The hard part is not just seeing them, but heeding them. If you are in such a relationship, there is no need to fuss over him. Instead, give thanks, get out and live your life without relying on a proposal to make you happy.
Life is not black and white, but if you have some doubts, these are indicators that he is not in a place to marry you. It’s not about his not loving you. It is about his not wanting to marry you. And very likely you will one day thank him for not doing it.
HE IS EVASIVE ABOUT THE FUTURE
It is generally not a good idea to discuss marriage and babies on the first date. But if you and your guy talk about jobs, career, holidays, you should trust the relationship enough to discuss your future. But if he isn’t willing to see you in his life permanently or avoids the discussion altogether, run.
HE “DOESNT KNOW”
A story was told of a woman who had to quit her job, moved to her boyfriend’s city and moved in with him. Then she started looking at rings, hoping one day he will make things right. She had no doubts that he was the one for her.
Months later, she summoned courage and asked him : “do you want to marry me?” She was unprepared for his response of ‘I don’t know’. If after living together, starting her life and career over, he still “didn’t know”, then deep down he did. He just cannot bring himself to face the truth. When in doubt, direct questions often give you the right answer even if it is “I don’t know”. It may not be what you want to hear, but it’s the truth. You may need to call it off, maybe take a year to heal, rest assured that you will find the man who will “know”.
HE IS HOT AND COLD ON THE PHONE
He will text you ten times in a night, and then go off for days. He will chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for a week. Maybe you are wondering what the hell is going on? The truth is that he has his time well shared. He’s been busy. He is most likely busy dating other women.
THINGS ARE MISSING FROM HIS FACEBOOK PAGE
Has he untagged any photos of you and him? Does he post updates often, yet never mention hanging out with you? Is his relationship status hidden? Then you should smell a rat. A guy who is wary of making commitment will make sure there are no traces of you on his page.
HIS BUDDIES ACT DISTANT
Even though a player’s close friends and siblings may be friendly enough, they probably won’t ask you many personal questions about your job, interests etc the ugly truth is ; they don’t want to invest time and energy getting to know you because they figure you are not going to be around very long.
HE SAYS YOU ARE SOULMATES
If a guy comes on super strong right off the bait (the first couple of weeks), telling you things like that he is starting to fall in love with you, just make sure you play it safe and trust your gut. Those powerful words might be rolling off his tongue so smoothly because he is spoken them so many times before.
If you are deeply unhappy with someone and you feel his proposal will change things, it won’t. It will distract you from the real issues for a while, but they will still be there. And you don’t want to talk someone into wanting to marry you. If he is giving you signs that he doesn’t want to marry you, heed them. You will thank him years from now.
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