Of ‘edible catering’ and the ills of social media
No, I am not just about to add to the insinuations, excitement(of course, bad news bring excitement to the media), hype, counter allegations going on in the media(mainstream media and the internet). I’d rather leave that to the nay sayers, the gainsayers, the pharisees(who see the world through rose coloured spectacles, bury their own issues and drink Zobo on top of another person’s matter). I have read Reuben Abati, Area Fada(charly boy), Uti Nwachukwu, Freeze, NaijaSingleGirl and Naijamum’s position on these matter.
Yet, I am not about to delve into the issues already trending. I am not going to call out any side chick called ‘edible catering’. That isn’t my business. Rather, I would like to critically examine and ask what it is with us and social media.
The social media has so many positive sides to it but we have become so infatuated with it that we can no longer differentiate between what is personal and what to make public. How did the excitement of social media handles(twitter,facebook,instagram etc) creep on us so subtly, that we are yet not awake from it?
What is the purpose of putting our matters out there? For people to sympathise with us? Why do we feel bad when a picture post doesn’t have many ‘likes’ and comments?
What is the purpose of writing a lengthy or lovely epistle on facebook on your wife/husband’s birthday. This is not to say that this is bad but aren’t we just interested in painting our partners as flawless human beings next to God only on social media? Wouldn’t a simple, clear happy birthday message be okay?
Would it feel less honourable to say those things verbally to your spouse? Why do we need the support/gratification from social media before we can feel good?
“When you put your sensitive matters out there, it goes into the unforgiving archives of the internet. It can never be retrieved nor forgotten”(says Freeze-CoolfmOAP). And those that show us who they are engaged or in a relationship with, when/if the relationship breaks up, how do you clear the evidence?
Some of us are not interested in knowing what goes on in other people’s marriages. Just deal with it. It’s actually embarrassing to read such.
The kind of things one reads, ehn. Even the way such messages are crafted and woven already shows they are not being real. Things like ‘everyday has been too full of happiness since I married you’. Really? You never disagreed/cried/sulked/went to bed unhappily even once?
‘My life was meaningless before you came in’. You are the final dot that completes me. So, your life didn’t amount to anything at all because of a man. What were you doing with your life before the man found you? It was meaningless because you spent all your single years waiting for him.
It beats me to see how people place so much value on ephemeral things, on things that gratify the mortal man. It is no longer news that most people live fake lives on social media.
A man comes to facebook to write nice things about his wife on her birthday. His girlfriends/side chicks/”edible caterings” are clicking ‘like’ and even writing comments. But the wife is happy because the man has acknowledged her before the whole world.
At funeral ceremonies, you’ll see people with their Ipads, Iphones, BlackBerry etc taking pictures upandan. At the last one I attended, which was my mom’s, even elderly folks were busy recording and taking pictures. I looked at those people and said within me ‘it isn’t their fault’.
Does it look like we are laughing here? Someone just passed suddenly. Everyone is wearing a gloomy look and you are snapping pictures..for what? To do what with it? To show to people? Or to your kids who didn’t show up or offer words of condolence? Or to use as DP.
Before people will render help to accident victims or victims of armed robbery attack these days, they would first take pictures. Not minding if the people are still alive or gone. The evils that camera phones do, hmmm.
One wonders why the breakdown of someone’s marriage should generate so much news/excitement. Is the world hungry for bad news? Or for other people’s downfall? Or were people expecting the news all along?
Yoruba guys are now tagged Yoruba demons. Someone said ‘girls are no longer smiling, so yoruba boys should go and reset their brains”.
While this isn’t a Yoruba or culture thing, it’s still very sad that a lot of Nigerian men are in the habit of slut shaming their spouse, throwing accusations, complaining about not being given food(yes, as hilarious as that sounds) etc
Edible catering is even a fancy name code for a side chick. What about Taju Generator, Akeem Vulcaniser, etc. To all the oloshos who are bearing such names, kontinuuu. God is soaking your cane in kerosene. Men, causing problems since 1890 and then blaming it on women. The evils they do……