Marriage Is An Achievement, Abegiii!!!

With the way the internet just broke over Banky Wellington and Adesua Tolulope Etomi’s engagement, what does that tell me? Marriage keeps winning!!!! Love keeps happening!!!!

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Picture credit: Bellanaija

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The hottest topic that causes dissension on social media is the issue of marriage. Married versus single women come up with topics to shame each other, to make the single life more attractive than being married and married women also try to #pepperdem# with beautiful pictures showing they have a lovely home.

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Deep down in the heart of most singles, they want to be happily settled in good marriages. They love happy endings. They love weddings.

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Else, why is it that bellanaija is patronised daily by a lot of people if not for their bellanaija weddings and asoebibella?

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Why is it that we gush over genuine love stories like the one which just broke the internet?

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Why is it that the topics on marriages or singleness attracts the highest likes and comments on Facebook?

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Why do ladies love Telemundo and Zee World if not for beautiful love stories with romantic endings?

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Why do people patronise love doctors? Why is Joro Olumofin popular?

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Marriage seminars nko?(maybe people don’t attend this one any longer but last I saw, it was really a hot cake)

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Truth is, most of us women have been preparing for marriage unconsciously since when we were born. Some of us grew up reading novels, inspirational books that talk about marriages.

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Girls dressed up to go to lessons in order to be attractive to the opposite sex.
Like in Adichie’s Americanah, she said ‘in those days, lessons were an opportunity /perfect excuses for girls to visit or be with their boyfriends.’

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However, over the years, we have tried to shame marriage like it doesn’t matter. Why?

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Because of few monsters who have made marriage a boxing ring, due to the gory details we hear or see all over the internet everyday, due to the decreasing number of godly men and women around.

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But, it doesn’t change the fact that love makes the world go round. And when two people who have been happily single decides to tie the knot, the universe kind of answers to them. There is a lot of positive energy in the air. People mush and gush, some cry, some can’t express how they feel. So much vibes that will be around for a long time.

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Genuine love, which is so rare these days, brings genuine happiness. Which is why the Bible says that ‘he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtain favour from the lord’.

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Now that Adesua has been found by Banky, I hope many will dump their high horse and be sincere with themselves that there is still genuine love around. That marriage is still beautiful. That it wasn’t in the intention of God that man should be alone. That two are better than one.

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This also tells me, that there is a yearning in the heart of most Nigerian male and female, of the need to be sincerely loved, truly cared for, swept off their feet and end up in marriage.

After watching Wedding Party, for those of us that love romantic endings….this is truly a happily-ever-after.

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Forget the farce that marriage is not an achievement. Odiegwu, even your ancestors know it is. Be real for once, to yourself.

 

Yetunde Olasiyan

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May, 2017

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Comments

May 7, 2017 at 8:20 am

Lol. The people saying marriage isn’t an achievement are the same ones fawning over our new royal couple lol. Why are we excited if not because it’s romantic, it’s a love story, it’s happily ever after. It’s Disney, telemundo, M and B, Harlequin, Cinderella all rolled into one.
You need to see how excited I was about Banky W and Adesua.

Lol at “Forget the farce that marriage is not an achievement. Odiegwu, even your ancestors know it is. Be real for once, to yourself”

I agree with this “this also tells me, that there is a yearning in the heart of most Nigerian male and female, of the need to be sincerely loved, truly cared for, swept off their feet and end up in marriage”

Exactly! There’s still that desire to be loved sincerely and be swept of our feet. There’s the desire to get it right in marriage but when people try to make single people feel less because they aren’t married then they just have to tell them it’s not an achievement.



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