MARRIAGE ACCORDING TO SEYI LAW
Good day folks, i was reading a past edition of Daily Sun newspaper when i came across this interesting piece with Seyi Law. I have reproduced it verbatim but the only important ones. I actually found it inspiring[ if indeed the words are true]. I do hope you find it refreshing too. Enjoy!
Award winning stand-up comedian Oluwaseyitan Aletile aka Seyi Law is enjoying marital bliss without batting an eyelid. The dude’s marriage to his heartthrob, Ebere Cham was a year old last month. In this interview with daily sun, he spoke about his wife and their marriage, his polygamous family background and how he wants to be a better father than his dad. Excerpts;
It’s been one year since you got married, how’s married life treating you?
I am happy and renewed. It was an interesting first year and we look forward to more joyous years ahead by God’s grace. Marriage is fine and fun. It’s been wonderful and one of the important things that happened to me in my life. My wife sees me as everything and i have many reasons to love her more. Our love is renewed each day with sweet memories of the past as a positive driving force filled with forgiveness.
What has changed about you since you got married?
Nothing much has changed about me but i don’t go out as i used to before i got married. Apart from that, i am still myself. Marriage has helped me to be more calm and happy. When people see me these days, they say am looking bigger, and i tell them it’s one of the dividends of marriage.
Most people go into marriage with certain expectations which if not met create problems, are your expectations being met in your marriage?
I am having fun in my marriage. I have a very good woman who takes care of me. She is one of the nicest woman i have ever met. When i wake up in the morning, there is always something for me to eat before i leave the house and when i get back at night, i am confident that my home is in good hands. When i go out, i have nothing to worry about because i know my wife has what it takes to keep me at home. When we talk, we discover that we reason alike and that is an interesting aspect of our relationship.
You are enthusiastic about having kids, how many do you wish to have?
My father has over 50 children, but i want to have three. Maybe when my first is 20 and the last one 10, i can drop one more to be the icing on the cake. I come from a polygamous family. It is all in God’s hands.
How did coming from a polygamous home affect your life when growing up?
Although my father had many wives and children, i didn’t live with my parents. Growing up, i stayed with my uncles and aunties. I stayed in a boarding house at school and i was always away from home most times. The attention of my father was divided. I never enjoyed the company of my father and didn’t even feel his impact on my education. It was like i grew up on my own. Most times, i feel like a stranger trying to meet some expectations of family members but my mum was so particular about our education. She worked hard to educate us, i appreciate her for that.
Another impact of polygamy was that i had the opportunity to start thinking of having my own home on time. I read a lot of books on marriage and told myself i want to be a good husband and be the best man any woman would have as a husband. Maybe that’s why i married on time, i just want to be a different man from what my father was.
What attracted you to your wife?
The way she laughs. I remember it was September 30th 2007 at Global Impact Church, Surulere that i met her for the first time. I was invited to perform and when i loked across the hall, there was this lady laughing her heart out and very jovial too. That caught my attention. She was genuinely happy, calm and excited too. I saw all that before i went on stage to perform. I was leaving with my friend, Emeka Smith a comedian when the same lady walked up to me and said ‘i love your confidence on stage’. I am just seeing you for the first time and your confidence is out of this world’. I thanked her and we exchanged numbers. Fortunately for me, she was waiting for a cab with her friend like i was, so i got a cab that took us all. We just clicked. It was a match made in heaven.
You talk passionately about your wife and marriage, what do you have to say to single men who have the means but are not ready to settle down?
They have to read their bibles very well because God has not given us the spirit of fear but of love, power and a sound mind. They are actually timid about it because it is one step men are always careful about. I remember my elder brother told me ‘when you marry the wrong woman, you will never make heaven.’ That is something i held unto because if you marry the wrong person, you will experience hell on earth.
That i love my wife doesn’t mean we don’t have misunderstandings, it means we resolve them as soon as they come and move on. Because i am very passionate about my wife, little issues that i have with her affects my mood when i work. It takes me more time to come up with jokes at those times and because of that, i make sure we put aside our differences before i go out to work. Single men should pray to God for direction and also be bold to take the step. It is very important that a man settles down.
What is your secret to a lasting marital relationship?
It is a triangular thing. It takes God, the man and the woman to build a lasting relationship. Marriage is a relationship between you and your wife with God at the top of the triangle. When you put God ahead of you and learn to love each other, your marriage will last. There is nowhere it is written that marriage will be either sweet or bitter, but it is your choice that makes it work. If you choose happiness, you will work towards a happy home. If you choose to make it sad, bitter and sour, you will indirectly work towards it and that is what you will get.
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