African parents and man made traditions

I was having a discussion with my father early this year bordering on the house. Most of us grew up and left home and only my younger brother stays there.

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He said to me ‘The papers of this house are hidden somewhere and your brother is aware. I told him where I hid it’.
I was shocked. So I asked
‘Where did you hide it?’

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And he looked at me incredulously like ‘do you honestly expect me to reveal that to you?’
So he said
‘I can’t tell you’.
But why? I asked

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You are a woman. You don’t live in my house any longer. Your younger brother is the man and he has to control my house when I am no more.

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‘Dad, so you believe in all this traditional nonsense. I can’t believe you just said that to me. So what am I? A discarded piece of human being?’

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Then I stalked off angrily. We didn’t discuss the matter anymore till I left home.
But it got me thinking. Why do parents feel their female children cannot speak or call the shots after them?

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It happened to the daughters of Zelophehad of bible history. This man died and left behind five daughters. But the daughters were disinherited because they were females(though not by their father). The man had no son.

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So these ladies went to Moses and reminded him about the commandment of God’s law that made provision for a man’s female children to be given their father’s inheritance.
Even God supported them. At the end of the day, they got all their father’s land.

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Numbers: 27. 7. The daughters of Zelophehad speak right: thou shalt surely give them a possession of an inheritance among their father’s brethren; and thou shalt cause the inheritance of their father to pass unto them.

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So what is it about African parents and man made traditions? Who else has experienced this? Do you think this is right? What is the way forward?

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The ills of modern parenting in present day Nigeria

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